Abstinence was not a choice for a shy boy like me in high school, it was an affliction. Or at least it felt like one.
For some present-day high schoolers, St. Valentine has become the patron saint of chastity, and they’re planning to commemorate his day with flyers, t-shirts and special oaths swearing off the dirty deed until matrimony.
Yup, this year Cupid is finally putting some pants on.
Despite the fact high schools aren’t crazy about t-shirts for a lot of “causes,” or ones with sex-related messages, some of them are allowing students to distribute anti-sex propaganda for Valentine’s Day.
I think these schools need to hand out my earlier blog on abstinence for the other side of the story. It’s not scientific, but it’s what I’ve learned. Alas…
When I was in high school the faculty didn’t want kids wearing the “Like A Virgin” t-shirts they bought at the Madonna concert, because of the V-word. Isn’t that what they wanted kids to be? Would they prefer a “Like A Skank-Ho” t-shirt?
My school was always happy to present a one-sided, conservative view to us. Celibacy, Christianity (this was public school, mind you) and military service were the favored paths in life.
It was a clear program of indoctrination, and I resented every bit of it.
I’m not saying teens should knock boots. High school is pretty young for that. I wasn’t ready for it then, even though I was ready for it then.
Where I take issue with the so-called “purity” initiatives is that they’re borne out of a slanted religious agenda and/or out of ignorance.
Sure kids should wait, but many of them aren’t making an informed choice, they’re making a choice colored by talk of sin, chastisement, pregnancy and AIDS. Some folks are fine with that, but I don’t like lying to teens, even if it is “for their own good.” I’m still attuned to the adolescent in me.
I don’t think anyone should ever get half the story. Ideally, life’s choices are made with knowledge of the consequences and benefits; the flipside of that is ignorance. And that’s not what we go to school for.
Enjoy your chocolates, kids.